Words to cut, if you want to be happier

Category: Article or Blog Published: Wednesday, 21 February 2018 Written by Sarah PJ White

The words we use on a daily basis help to shape the life we lead. They have the power to open us up to possibilities, as well as closing them down. We often notice the impact other people’s words have on us – but have you noticed the impact your own words are having on you?

Our own words have even more power over us than those of others. They dictate how we feel about ourselves, how we act and what we think we’re capable of – both good and bad. They also illustrate how little we think of ourselves too, so why do we use these limiting words?

The reason we use them is simply down to habit. We are so used to having these words in our vocabulary, we don’t even realise we’re using them anymore – which also means we don’t witness the effect they have on us either and whether they make us feel happier or not.

However, the words we use impact those hearing them too – they help shape their opinions of us, as well as our opinions of them.

Here are my personal top seven words to cut from your vocabulary, along with the reasons why they’re so damaging and limiting to each and every one of us.

#1: Should

This word is often used when we’re basing our opinions and action steps on other people’s standards and beliefs. We feel it’s what others think we need to be doing and it illustrates how we’re worried about what others think of us and our actions.

#2: Try

Try is another way of saying it isn’t going to happen! For example, how many times have you said you’ll try to get something done – only for it not to happen? ‘Try’ simply means your commitment level is very low or you don’t want to make a definite yes or no decision.

#3: Just/Only

These two words are often used when describing ourselves – I’m just a housewife, I only work part-time. They imply we’re unempowered, unimportant and playing small.

#4: But

This word negates whatever has been said before it. We often start a sentence with a positive and then use this word to follow it up with a more negative or contradictory viewpoint. By doing this, we focus only on what’s been said after the word but.

#5: Can’t

Using the word can’t closes our mind to the possibility that we can (or possibly could) do something. It stops us imagining what if, and stops our mind from finding other possible options.

#6: Obviously

This word sounds as if we’re talking down to others or being generally sarcastic. It implies that we find something crystal clear – whereas they may not, in fact, find it that clear themselves. It can come across as being and feeling superior to those around us.

#7: Why

This is one of those words that is both good and bad! When using it on ourselves, it can lead us to question things and go exploring for answers and solutions. When using it on others however – it can be really confrontational. It tends to set others on the defensive, as we’re questioning their motives and actions.

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