Tuning into yourself

Category: Article or Blog
Published: Wednesday, 14 March 2018
Written by Sarah PJ White

We all have an inner guidance system, one that helps us distinguish between what is good or bad, right and wrong, happy or sad. It can even help us make decisions over which path to take and what action steps to follow. However, because we don’t understand how it works, it’s often overridden by the thoughts and opinions of others and even our own ‘logic’… so how can you tune into this inbuilt system and be better guided?

What is this guidance system?

Tuning into yourself is the key to accessing this guidance system. It allows us to activate the tools we all naturally have in us – our emotions and feelings. Some people refer to it as ‘a gut feeling’, others call it ‘inner knowing’ or our ‘higher self/soul’, but whatever name you give it, it is designed to work specifically for you.

How does this guidance system work?

The beauty of this inner guidance system, is it’s so easy to use! You simply tune into yourself and acknowledge how you feel, what emotions are there and whether they’re positive (high vibration/light feeling) or negative (low vibration/heavy feeling).

If it’s that easy, why don’t we all use it?

When it comes to looking for a solution or answer, we often think we have to hunt or search for it. This implies looking outside for an answer. We want to see a solution or hear advice from others. Going inside and listening to feelings is just too easy, too normal.

On top of this, we also often have a need to gather the advice and opinions of others, so we can make a ‘judgement call’ based on the popular choice, the logic-based decision and the answer that will keep everyone happy – including ourselves.

And therein lies the problem.

We don’t always like what can happen as a result of our answer. It may feel right for us, but the subsequent work or action steps around it may themselves feel uncomfortable – especially if they’re taking us out of our comfort zones. We then override the initial good/right feeling we immediately get with our decision, with the feelings we have when we think about the repercussions of that answer. We need to be brave and have faith to follow it through – and that can be hard.

How to connect in with yourself

Learning to connect in with yourself and your inner guidance system isn’t hard – it just takes practice and a willingness to stop and focus. So stop what you’re doing and focus on your breathing.

  • Take a few slow breaths in and out and close your eyes.
  • Ask yourself ‘Do I want to…[your first option/path]?’ or ‘Do I want to… [your second option/path]?’
  • Notice the feelings and emotions around each option/path. Do they feel heavy or light? Calm or stressed?
  • Notice the thoughts that pop into your head – but only the immediate ones. Do you immediately think ‘no’ or ‘yes’?
  • How does your body feel with each? Do your shoulders sink or does it feel heavy, as if burdened down?
  • Open your eyes and follow your intuitive answer.

You can repeat this several times, if you need to, as it doesn’t always happen immediately, especially if you’re not used to connecting in this way. However, it’s something that can be built up over a period of time, so use it often and you’ll soon be reaping the rewards of connecting in with you!


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Do what makes you happy!

Category: Article or Blog
Published: Wednesday, 07 March 2018
Written by Sarah PJ White

We all want to be happy, right? Some people spend a small fortune trying to find something they can do or buy to make them happy. Others will spend their whole lives waiting for something to happen that will make them happy.

The sad fact is, people are often delaying being happy, because they don’t have that magic ‘something’ that will warrant them being happy! Their happiness plan consists of ‘When I get/have this, I’ll THEN be able to be happy’ or ‘I’ll be happy when…’

I’ll let you in on a secret. It’s the first step to being happy. And it’s the one secret that will save you a lot of time, money, frustration and effort…

Happiness is a conscious decision. You decide to be happy and you will be happy.

Sounds so simple, doesn’t it? But it’s true! You can be happy now, no matter how your life has panned out so far and no matter what you have (or don’t have) in your life.

The problem is, so many of us have made happiness a condition of something. We tell ourselves not to feel happy, unless those conditions are met – and we tell ourselves we CAN’T be happy until that happens.

Your mind is a powerful tool and, used well, it can help you overcome any obstacle, feel whatever you want and associate any emotion with any experience – including happiness.

The second secret to being happy is to smile. Have you tried smiling, even if it’s just a fake one to start with? The very act of smiling instantly upturns your mood. You start to feel lighter, brighter and happier. Look to smile more – at everyone and no one – just smile for the sheer pleasure of smiling.

A smile is contagious. Smile and the world will smile with you – ok, maybe not the whole world, but those in your world will start to smile with you, meaning they’ll soon be feeling happier too.

The third secret to being happy is to do what makes you happy! Because we make a mental list of what we need in place before we can be happy, we often don’t take the time to notice the little things in our lives that do make us happy. It could be playing music or listening to music, dancing or sitting still, baking or reading, surrounding ourselves with friends or being alone – it doesn’t matter; there is no right or wrong here. The important thing is that you know what makes you happy, as only then, can you make a decision to do more of it.

So make yourself a list of things that make you happy. Go ahead and write them down – and then make a decision to do more of them. Schedule in regular time slots to do at least one thing from this list and you’ll start feeling happier, faster.


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Reflect to move forward

Category: Article or Blog
Published: Wednesday, 28 February 2018
Written by Sarah PJ White

New Year inevitably brings with it a feeling of hope and expectation. We all want to start the year on a high and, if at all possible, end it on an even higher one! But in our eagerness to welcome the year ahead, we often forget to take the time to reflect on the year we’re just finishing – meaning we’re potentially missing out on information that can help us move forward, faster.

Looking back

No matter how good or bad your year has been, there are lessons to be learned. Whether it’s things to avoid or actions to include, looking back can be one of the most useful tools for enabling you to move forward.

The key to looking back over your past year is to be gentle with yourself! This isn’t a blaming and shaming exercise. It isn’t a tool to beat yourself up with – it’s simply a case of evaluating, without judgement, the things you’ve achieved or delayed on throughout the year. You can kick-start the process by asking yourself the following questions:

  • What was my biggest achievement this year?
  • What lessons did I learn?
  • Who did I need to be, in order to reach these achievements?
  • What skills have I learnt this year?
  • Who has been my biggest ally?
  • What connections and friendships best served me?
  • How did I nurture my relationship with others?
  • What did I avoid this year – and how has this helped me? (This is great for uncovering hidden benefits of staying stuck and not moving forward)
  • What worked for me this year?
  • What skills did I wish I had to help me out this year?

Once you’ve assessed how your year went, you can start using the information to help plan your year ahead.

Looking forward

When it comes to looking forward, we’re great at it – especially when it comes to making plans as resolutions. The problem is, those resolutions often fall by the wayside during the first month!

By taking the lessons learnt in the previous year, you can make firm plans and goals for the year ahead. Using your previous answers as a guide, ask yourself the following:

  • What do I want to achieve this year?
  • How can the lessons learnt in the previous year, help me?
  • What qualities and traits will I be implementing this year?
  • What skills and qualities do I have, that can help me reach my new goals?
  • What relationships will I be nurturing – and which will I be cooling?
  • Who do I want to get to know better?
  • How can I better serve my colleagues and myself?
  • What negative traits and habits do I need to watch out for – and what are my plans for cutting them out of my life?
  • What qualities do I have that I’d like to expand – and which do I want to change?
  • What do I want to learn this year?

By assessing your previous year in a non-judgemental way, you can easily glean hidden negative habits and thoughts that need working on – and ensure your year ahead is even better than the previous one!

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Take a time-out for you

Category: Article or Blog
Published: Wednesday, 07 March 2018
Written by Sarah PJ White

With the year-end fast approaching, it can be easy to feel overwhelmed over Christmas, the New Year and what 2016 may have in store for you. However, regardless of whatever time of year we’re in, it’s crucial that you’re regularly planning time for yourself, as it will benefit your overall health and wellbeing, as well as your general happiness and mood. So why are these time-outs so important?

Slow down and give yourself time to process

General everyday life can be hectic, especially when it comes to family and work. We’re often on the go, from the minute we wake up until out head hits the pillow at bedtime – and this constant fast pace can result in stress.

One of the biggest problems is our breathing. When you’re stressed and rushing about, your breathing is shallow – meaning your body doesn’t get the oxygen it needs. This can affect your mood, awareness and your ability to think straight.

Taking the time to give yourself some ‘head space’, time to process thoughts and untangle problems, helps keep you from getting stressed, whilst taking the time to breath deep and slow, will ensure your body is getting the fuel it needs to process everything.

Recharge your batteries

Regular time-outs can give you valuable time to totally switch off and recharge your energy levels. This helps alleviate the symptoms of not only stress, but depression and lethargy too.

Spend this time doing whatever relaxes you – whether that’s reading a book, having a bath or walking outside.

A deeper connection

Taking a time-out for yourself also helps you better connect with yourself and your needs. You can listen and feel whatever emotions and thoughts you are having, as well as having the time to re-evaluate what you need to put you back into optimum status.

But there’s also the connection you have with the bigger picture, the universe, God, religion and whatever you believe in – and this is just as important.

Personal growth

Scheduling regular time slots for yourself also serves as a useful tool for personal growth too. Whether you want to try a new skill or sit and get to know you better, it’s all part of what makes you unique; part of your personal growth.

Giving yourself this valuable time is essential for your overall wellbeing AND it helps you serve others too – after all, you can only exceed others expectations of you, if you ARE the best version of you – so start looking after yourself and giving yourself the gift of time to do this.


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Words to cut, if you want to be happier

Category: Article or Blog
Published: Wednesday, 21 February 2018
Written by Sarah PJ White

The words we use on a daily basis help to shape the life we lead. They have the power to open us up to possibilities, as well as closing them down. We often notice the impact other people’s words have on us – but have you noticed the impact your own words are having on you?

Our own words have even more power over us than those of others. They dictate how we feel about ourselves, how we act and what we think we’re capable of – both good and bad. They also illustrate how little we think of ourselves too, so why do we use these limiting words?

The reason we use them is simply down to habit. We are so used to having these words in our vocabulary, we don’t even realise we’re using them anymore – which also means we don’t witness the effect they have on us either and whether they make us feel happier or not.

However, the words we use impact those hearing them too – they help shape their opinions of us, as well as our opinions of them.

Here are my personal top seven words to cut from your vocabulary, along with the reasons why they’re so damaging and limiting to each and every one of us.

#1: Should

This word is often used when we’re basing our opinions and action steps on other people’s standards and beliefs. We feel it’s what others think we need to be doing and it illustrates how we’re worried about what others think of us and our actions.

#2: Try

Try is another way of saying it isn’t going to happen! For example, how many times have you said you’ll try to get something done – only for it not to happen? ‘Try’ simply means your commitment level is very low or you don’t want to make a definite yes or no decision.

#3: Just/Only

These two words are often used when describing ourselves – I’m just a housewife, I only work part-time. They imply we’re unempowered, unimportant and playing small.

#4: But

This word negates whatever has been said before it. We often start a sentence with a positive and then use this word to follow it up with a more negative or contradictory viewpoint. By doing this, we focus only on what’s been said after the word but.

#5: Can’t

Using the word can’t closes our mind to the possibility that we can (or possibly could) do something. It stops us imagining what if, and stops our mind from finding other possible options.

#6: Obviously

This word sounds as if we’re talking down to others or being generally sarcastic. It implies that we find something crystal clear – whereas they may not, in fact, find it that clear themselves. It can come across as being and feeling superior to those around us.

#7: Why

This is one of those words that is both good and bad! When using it on ourselves, it can lead us to question things and go exploring for answers and solutions. When using it on others however – it can be really confrontational. It tends to set others on the defensive, as we’re questioning their motives and actions.

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